The Best Thing for Your Marriage

In my opinion, one of the best things you can do for your marriage is to...

delegate the chores. 

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I know what your thinking... Really? Thats one of the best things? But, yeah... it really is. 

Because when you don't...

well, one person ends up doing everything and then they start to resent that fact.

Think about it, how many people do you know that one person ends up doing all of the housework. 

Cooking, cleaning, laundry, dishes, etc, etc. 

It becomes exhausting.

And then that person starts to get a little mad, a little exasperated, a little spiteful.

If one person ends up doing all the work, it ends up putting a wedge in the relationship. 

Thats why its so important to delegate the chores early in the relationship. There are a couple of ways to do this...

1. Make a Chore Chart- and switch out the chores every week or month. This is great because you know exactly who does what and you both end up doing the same thing. That way, one person is not always doing a specific chore.

2. Assign Chores- for life... or at least a year. This is the method we use for now just because there are certain things each of us hate to do. For instance, he hates doing dishes and I hate vacuuming. 

3. Daily Dos- Talk to each other everyday (or when stuff needs to be done) about who's doing what. Like after dinner say.. "You load, I'll unload?" I think most people do a little of this but, if you want to make this your whole system then go for it!

Personally, I think its important to have a system, but, you have to do what works for you and your spouse.

Also, just help each other.

Remember, you married this person because you love them... and part of loving somebody is being selfless and doing things just because you know it will make them happy.

Just try to remember that one person should not be doing everything... stay at home parent or not.